I’m a firm believer that everything that happened in your life up until this point was the right thing. Every decision you made was the right decision. There may have been calamity and tragedy but if you are:
- Still alive
- Not in prison
- Healthy
- Free
Then why would you wish to go back and change any decisions you made? Just one change, one amendment to your history, could have unforeseen and negative consequences. There’s an old adage at play here; if it ain’t broke don’t fix it.
There are of course many things which happened in the past which lead to difficulty and which I look back on and wish I hadn’t done – or had done sooner. In many respects the first 35 years of my life was mistake upon mistake. At the time I might have wished I’d done something different but when I sit here now happy and healthy with my family also happy and healthy. When I look back I realise those decisions I made lead me to this point. At the time I regretted buying a house with someone when I was uncertain about the relationship. At the time I regretted ending a relationship with someone I loved. There are regrets in my life but I temper that regret with the knowledge everything worked out in the end.
I have no ‘biggest regret’ in my life. I don’t think of this as ‘fate’ or any other notion that my life is not mine to control, but everything happens for a reason, right?
As the philosopher Eminem once said;
You know, if I had a chance to do it all over again
I wouldn’t change shit
